This Week’s Focus Point
By Dr. Jason Carthen
Discussion Regarding Successful Leadership Models
Today’s Leadership Minute resonates with me as it is something that I struggle with as a Christ-follower, husband, father, and business owner. Recently, while having a discussion regarding successful leadership models, the topic of balance was brought up. At our lunch table, many of us were experiencing the same trials and travails of life, family responsibilities, parenting, fitness goals, and our faith-walk. None of us had the perfect answer, but through the course of talking out our thoughts and engaging with one another, we began to see the important linkages between staying consistent with our responsibilities and leaving room for the veto power of “Balance.”
Achieving Balance Holds Sway Over Potential Positive or Negative Outcomes
No matter who you are or what socioeconomic status you occupy in life, achieving balance holds sway over potential positive or negative outcomes. This is not to say that balance is a utopia that we are in search of to be happy, in fact, it is actually the opposite. Balance actually can be a place of twin-tensions that require us to make a decision to either take something off our plate totally or prioritize the completion of certain tasks that all may look very important. The key word here is “decision” because as we sat around that table, many of us realized that when it came time to make a decision regarding things, goals, people, or opportunities in our lives, balance was not there and we were simply reacting in the moment. I humbly submit to you today that in order to feel empowered and thrive in this lifetime, it is crucial that we create boundaries and balance in our lives that can be built upon three things that I fondly call, “The Carthen C.A.R. Model™.”
The Carthen C.A.R. Model™
We upset the apple cart when we have a system of doing things that we get away from when the cares of life begin to press in. Do not underestimate how our attitudes, and intentions lead to behaviors and when we are inconsistent, the resultant outcomes can be devastating to ourselves and to those who are around us. Be intentional and consistent in your Faith, Life and Relationships as it will allow greater growth and depth of character.
Allow someone to “Speak into Your Life” to provide mile markers of your behaviors in order to weave a tapestry of when you are performing at a high level or when you are becoming taxed too far and becoming unbalanced. A key thing to remember is that any accountability is mutual and should have a foundation of love and not harsh criticism.
The greatest moments of growth take place during time of reflection and taking stock of what has taken place in your life previously, how you reacted to it and what the outcomes were, whether positive or negative. One of the least used, but most effective ways of reflection is to journal and create telling moments or “snapshots” in your life that show patterns of behavior in your thoughts, attitudes intentions and behaviors. The beauty of journaling is that it creates moments that you have provided and upon further study tells a very clear story of who you are, and why you do the things that you do.
Exercise the Veto Power of Balance for Your Well-Being
As we travel through life, exercising the veto power of Balance for our own well-being, we will not only feel empowered, but we will be more centered on what we have been called to accomplish. As a indirect benefit, our behaviors will allow others an opportunity to possibly see things in us they may want to emulate for themselves….
How are you achieving balance in your life today?